Done lurking, need advice.

[In_Shock]

KD is right -- it's not over until YOU say it's over. I know a few stories -- like one of my profs hubby left her for 8 years, came back, begged for second chance-- they've been happily remarried for a LONG time. That is the first one that always comes to my mind. My prof who was the lbs told me 'the best revenge is living well.' she thrived while hubby was off with OW. she didn't 'wait around' but it worked out that they were able to reconcile. She told me "we have a great life now". I love that story.

I am having trouble with detachment myself and feel the need to drop the rope as others have said -- you are doing well so far. Keep the PMA.

This stood out to me: "I have read this a dozen times here, but still it is so profoundly surreal when your best friend becomes somebody you no longer recognize." It's so true and the fact that we call them ALIENS makes perfect sense huh???

Hang in there!!!!!!