just floating...need direction!

[abbey1989]

Well I did it. Yesterday morning H and I were lying in bed, and I asked him....."so how is your friend "OW's" new house coming along"....it took him by surprise.....and he said....OW who". I said her name....and he said he didn't know. I said "well that is strange, because something came over the fax that showed your name and phone number as the person requesting inspections on her new house"....he said what type of inspections....I said, temporary power, underground plumbing, foundation, etc...he said are you sure it wasn't for her ex-husband (he built a house that my H designed....hence the affair that broke her and her husband up). I said no....it was a different address and I told him the street and city. He said the only thing he could think of was that maybe she used his name as the contractor (lies). Anyway, then we talked about other things but as I was getting ready for work, he came in and said so "where is the fax?" He said that his name gets on all different kinds of "lists". I played it down and said it came in late November (after the last inspection) and that I tossed it. He asked why I didn't give it to him then and I didn't really have an answer to that.

So in the strangest way.....I feel better. Now he knows that I know A) where she is building her new house and B) that I know that he has been helping her. Even if he lied and said he wasn't. He knows I know.

This has been eating me up for a two years. He helped her find the lot (but said he was helping another client's friend look for a lot). I remember way back when he had a printout of that lot on his desk. I actually believed his story then. When I finally found OW had purchased that lot, I had proof of his involvement and have been keeping it inside for 2+ years.

I came home last night and he smiled and hugged me and said "your home!". We are headed out shopping this a.m. for last minute gifts once he gets home from the gym.

My depression meds have really helped and I'm not taking everything so seriously. Good days and bad.

It felt really really good to get that off of my chest yesterday morning. Now he can figure out how to deal with the fact that I KNOW.

Merry Christmas all!