This morning’s discussion went back four years when I returned from Afghanistan. At the time, my W left her job because she was being harassed and abused by her co-workers, a bad situation. I wasn’t supportive and thought she could be doing more around the house. To make things worse, I was dealing with a very sore back and in a constant state of pain. I had also started a new job which required some level of discretion and a great deal of work. Because I was getting angry a lot, my W figured I must be unhappy and having an affair, since I was always working, even on holidays.
This morning she accused me of giving her a STD from Afghanistan; not sure how that would happen. She also said she’s going to hire a PI to find out what I was doing four years ago. Because of my anger, I have no credibility with her, so she doesn’t believe a word I say.
Every fight, I used to ask “why are we doing this”, “why do we stay together”, “this is pointless”, etc. I can see how my comments would create doubt and cause my W to fall out of love with me. Recently, the tides have turned and now it’s my W who makes comments about divorce and I know I don’t like it. I guess the shoes on the other foot.
