Do I stay or do I go?

[anyhope]

Yes that crossed my mind also and would not surprise me so with that being said as you can imagine still no progress was made.
I got the his needs her needs book in the mail and just finished reading it. It has some great points to it, or I should say points are right on so I decided to wrap it and gift it to h tomorrow as ive invited him and my dad over for dinner.
The book also mentions how men who have affairs have issues letting ow go and often get depressed over not being able to keep both her and the wife... So... Thats not really good, but as it stands now he doesnt have me and I made it very clear to him that I will not be an option.
Even if she left which Im not sure when if ever will happen who knows how long it will take them to break contact fully.. The worse thing I can imagine happening is that I take my time to convince myself to work on it only to find out down the road that he's still talking to her.. That would just kill me.. I don't know... I'm really not sure I'll ever be able to forgive him, I mean it's not that he cheated and got caought.. He just told me about her and as if all was good started having a relationship with her, running off with her each day after work like I didn't exist.. I remember crying each night and being up until he'd get home at 1-2 in the morning, and the mental images of what he might be doing while he s gone and he didn't care.. I mean it was too much.. He told me a while ago that I should forgive him because everyone makes mistakes.. How do you define a mistake? This was one hell of a mistake..