Our story

[kolja]

Thanks, Purgatory! I'm a couple chapters into my copy of DR now, I'll probably get another chapter done before calling it a night. I've already had a few a-ha moments and I think I may have to get my own copy since I'm sure my counselor is EVENTUALLY going to want her signed copy back!!

There hasnt been crying with my wife's possible depression, just a lot of withdrawal and, it seems, the not entirely inaccurate presumption on her part that I'm at least partly responsible for it (given the things she's been through my getting a ride home from the staties was profoundly unhelpful). At this point it doesn't seem like there's much I can do to help her other than to stop pushing her away. Maybe a friend or family member can do what I can't or maybe she'll have to come around on her own. Thats out of my hands at the moment, and it's not as if there weren't other issues in our marriage that I contributed to and can work on in the meantime.

It's definitely a good thing that I found this site, the books and coaching. Pretty much three full days of no contact now - not long ago I wouldn't have let a single day go by without saying SOMETHING!