Funny that I was reading up on your sitch/piecing earlier this afternoon and then you post an update.
Although I'm no where near where you are and may never get there, I do think that you need to take this thing very, very slow. Your W has come back to the R after vowing to leave the M. you need to give her ample time to get her groove back and you need to get your groove back as well. How are those 180's. You've got to keep them going. Don't fall back into old habits; there is danger there!!
Perhaps, you should be working on making sure that you are only doing those things that work and avoiding the things that don't. The same with your W. Do you have these types of conversations?
Did you find your way into MC yet? I think you said previously that your W was open to it. So where is that?
One of the other posters mentioned a program called Retrovaille that was instrumental in helping rebuild their M. Have you looked into this?. Is this something your W would be interested in?
From what I've read, piecing is a very slow and laborious process. Brick, by brick. Take it slow and work on your communication.
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It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.
Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
