First post, words of wisdom needed

[purgatory]

Sounds like there are clouds over the sunshine... was that cheesy enough for ya?

I really feel for you. My theory about the lies is this: She doesn't want to *see* her hurt your feelings. What I mean is, If she were to come out a tell you the truth- that she is staying with OW-she would have to see the pain on your face... and she doesn't want to see that because somewhere inside, she still cares about you.
Now don't get me wrong, I think this is a coward move on her part. If someone is going to be bold enough to say that they want a separate life, doesn't love you and wants to date other people- than she should have the guts to live the with consequences of her actions; ie: seeing how her actions hurt you.

I am happy to see that you are volunteering and making 'friends'... I'm sure you bring some sunshine to the elder generations (still cheesy?) I do agree with you that you need to make some friends that can *go out* of their homes to a bar or to the movies. I heard of a site on this board (I can't remember who recommended it) its called 'meetup.com'. It's a great way to see events in your area, and there are TONS of interest groups to choose from. I joined one that is for single moms so I can meet woman who are in my same situation and make friends for my kids. Just a thought that doesn't cost money and gives you a chance to expand your friend circle.

Make it a goal to enjoy your holiday weekend!