Living with a WAW while going through a D part II

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"Today was my D's bday. Got home early and told her she should open her present. She did W never came downstairs to see it or be part of it. So I was hurt."

OK, so you are hurt for your D because of your W's disinterest? Do you think your D even noticed? If she did notice, why must you shoulder the burden? Your D is old enough to see what is going on. Let her do some of the emotional work on your W. It's better that your D's anger or sadness come from her towards your W then from you. Don't you think?

This is the kind of stuff you just have to let roll off your back, Rick. I mean, really!

Then because you are hurt, you get pissy and start making demands about furniture you don't even care about. What ever happened to keeping the road home paved and smooth?

Also, in an earlier post you talk about collecting paperwork for the L and that you have 2 weeks to get it all in but you are trying to get it done this week. Why? It seems to me that you could buy yourself more time if you slow-rolled this just a bit. Maybe even request an extension of the deadline. Just something to think about.

Next time something happens that gets your dander up, put up that mental STOP sign in your mind and then go take a walk. That is so much better than opening your mouth and getting your self in trouble. Wouldn't you agree?