Curve balls? Heck, I don't even play softball!!!

[kolja]

I don't know if this will help you or not because of the differences in our situations, but one thing I like to try and remind myself when I'm tempted to be upset about what I'm putting up with is that all this is hard for my wife in her own way. Her decision to give up could not have been an easy one for her to make, telling her family (especially during the holidays and with her sister's wedding coming up) had to have been difficult, and let's face it - she wouldn't have made this choice if she thought she was feeling totally awesome about everything.

It certainly doesn't show right now, but I know she's struggling in her own way.

Again, I don't know if that works for either of you or not, but maybe it's something to help take some of the sting out of being angry at what we're putting up with...