Thank you. I am grateful for your perspective. This is exactly the kick in the pants I needed. ("LBH fixer ways," indeed!) I, incorrectly, thought that in addition to making changes I could speak some "magic words" that would open a dialogue about the R/M. I am learning the lesson you are teaching. Each of the last two days I have talked myself out of saying something about the R/M and instead said nothing. Interestingly, my W thanked me last night for giving her space. In the past I might have tried to use the remark as an invitation but, instead, I just said no problem and left it at that.
Great insight on the open/closed heart. I needed to hear that.
As strange as it sounds, I am working to be more disinterested.
My W continues to be very interested in my (potential) new work opportunity. She does not press the point but she asks and TMs about any news. She asks about the interview process and my feelings about my chances of landing the position. I am very positive about my chances. An announcement is expected any time. We have struggled financially in the past and that has been a major issue for her and this opportunity would reduce the financial pressure. I suppose one could interpret her interest positively or negatively. I choose to be positive about it.
