Hey Ash, I thought I would also suggest some reading:
+ first, have you read Divorce Remedy by Michelle Weiner-Davis? It's the basis for all the support and recommendations on this board
Also, I believe the following two threads are great examples that you may find useful to understand the mind of an LBS who also has taken the time to reflect and has not given up, yet.
+ In this thread below, starting on the second page, there is great reflection by MAL:
Maybe they won't help. I wanted to help provide examples of where the LBS is in a reflective mode. Perhaps there are things in there that can help answer questions you might have on how your X might be feeling.
