Outside friends just want you to be happy and they'll say what they think will make you happy. If you broke up and were sad, the same people would be saying he wasn't right for you, move on.
Actually, in this case, they were all shocked. They didn't think we should break up and thought we should be together. And I know many secretly hoped we would find our way back. The good thing is that even though apart, we remained friends. And that means more than anything.
I don't always think other's opinions matter. In the end, it all comes down to the real truth and the only ones who know that are RC and me. What my friends and family say have no bearing on what happens, but having support and someone to talk to through it all is very helpful.
These are the people that know both of us best, and if anyone can have an outside perspective (certainly not me with my head spinning), it would be them. And the smart folks here too, of course. The outsider point of view is much needed!
I tried to answer some of the questions. There were some posts I missed earlier.
I guess you can tell I've done a lot of soul-searching in the past several days. When I realized that we were spending a lot of time together, it took me back.
Me 47 Ex H 46 Bomb 9/02 D final 3/04 Ex H now married to OW
------------ This is surviving. There is no such thing as a normal life, there's just life. So get on with it and enjoy it!
