Like Two Sparrows in a Hurricane (1)

[MAL]

12/19 (Monday)
No contact again. I think this is now a pattern on Mondays. lol

12/20 (Tuesday)
No contact until late in the day.

I was leaving work to head home and change for the Rec Center. I had not heard from him and was determined to go whether he went or not. Then I got a text telling me he wasn’t feeling well and wouldn’t be going. I guess he assumed that the Tuesday/Thursday thing is always a “go” now even if we don’t talk. That was good to learn. (We are still not good at communication after all this time, can you tell?)

We exchanged a few texts about that and then about the college basketball game we were supposed to go to the next night (taking Kelly’s kids with us).

I went to the Rec Center and got in a little workout. It wasn’t as good as when RC is there, since I am not comfortable bench pressing alone, lol. But I was able to get on the bike for 20 minutes, which I normally don’t get to do. I had Rhapsody playing on my phone, and was jamming to my tunes in my ear buds. It was good.

Later RC texted me to say there was a mix-up on the game tickets and the game was mid-day, not in the evening. Bummer cause we couldn’t go. And worse, the kids couldn’t go either. I know they were really looking forward to it.

We talked about options on what to do with them, but nothing concrete. I told him I still needed to get Christmas gifts to him and his mom that next night. So I would be over his way regardless. We could decide if we wanted to do something.

12/21 (Wednesday)
We exchanged a few texts about ideas to do with the kids. I just didn’t have time to coordinate since it was a busy day. Later that day he said he was taking his mom to dinner. I called as I was leaving the office to figure out the plan and he asked me to meet him and his mom for dinner. Traffic was horrible and it took me for ever to get there. By the time we ate, she was late getting to church. (I had already decided not to go that night since we were not having choir practice and I thought we were going to the game.)

I met RC at his house after and brought in the gifts. We watched a movie and talked for a bit until his mom got back. Then we exchanged gifts. It was very nice.

They also have gifts for my boys, but we are going to coordinate that later so they can get them in person.

RC was showing me a gift that he received from his best friend, PH, and we were standing in his room. I glanced at the calendar his mom keeps on the door and it had “weekend guest” for the weekend of New Year’s.

I took that to mean that RC’s lady friend is coming to see them that weekend. It makes sense because RC’s mom insisted that we drive back from his sister’s house on Friday instead of Saturday. She said she needed to be back then, and the look on her face was one that told me she was hiding something. I know her very well.

This is all just assumption, and I have not asked. But I’m preparing either way. It should be interesting if RC and his lady friend are sitting there in Sunday school class on 1/1 when I walk in. I need to decide where I’m going to sit. SMILE After all the stuff with my ex H and OW, I know I have the strength for it, but do I want to do this? Not sure yet.

So, anyway, I sort of confirmed what I had been picking up on when I saw that. I went through the rest of the night and the gift exchange as planned and enjoyed myself. His mom was in the talking mood again and we sat in the living room and talked for a long time. At one point I said I needed to get out of their hair and let RC get some sleep (work in the morning) and she responded, “No wait. I want to tell you another story.” So I stayed. Hmmm…Is she stalling? No clue.
I heard RC’s cell phone ringing in the kitchen, and his mom mentioned it. He said he heard it and told her to continue. She went on talking. My guess is that it was his lady friend. And like some other nights when the phone has rang, he has ignored it.

And unless he is staying up really late, I am guessing there are some nights when he doesn’t get to talk to her, because he is with me.

I know he is being polite, but moments like that make me wonder if she knows about me. He knows how I feel about him, and I can understand why he wouldn’t answer her call while I am there. If the relationship was all open, he would be able to answer the phone and say “Hi. Marcia is here. Can I call you back in a little while?” Clearly this is an awkward and maybe not entirely honest situation.

Knowing he is a good man, and one of integrity, moments like that make me wonder what kind of turmoil he may be in right now.