HI everyone. I am not really a newcomer since I am a member of the Class of 2002. I used DB for several months after my Ex H left me for OW. He and OW eventually married and I moved on. I am very familiar with DBing techinques and got quite good at it. In the end, it didn't work for me, but I do believe in it.
I am not married now, but I find myself here looking for support from some wonderful people who were there for me when I needed it most.
So why am I here??
I was in a relationship for 4 years. In July 2011, I decided to give up on the relationship and broke up with the guy. I had a 4 month break from him, dated for a little while, but I kept thinking I was cheating on my ex boyfriend. For the purpose of this site, I'll call him RC.
The 4 month break did me good. Within 2 months I felt that we had made a mistake and should have worked things out. Or we should have at least talked more. I think I was so overwhelmed with many other things in my life that I saw it as an "out" from more stress and hard stuff. I also think I felt like I was settling if I stayed in the relationship with him.
And most of all, I was scared. Scared of taking a chance, stepping out in faith, scared of another failed marriage since it seemed that was where we should be heading. After 4 years, it seemed to be expected.
So anyway, when we broke up I stopped attending church (his church that I started attending when we met). I rarely saw him. We did exchange texts here and there or might post to each other on Facebook. I saw him one night for a family game night, since we said we'd remain friends. And I saw him one day when I dropped off a gift for his niece that was getting married.
That night for game night I started thinking about what we had given up when we broke up. And within a matter of a couple of weeks, I knew....We messed up!
The spiritiual awakening really started in July when I went to Israel for 2 weeks with my son (more about that another time). That was followed by a lost feeling for about a month or so. Then things started falling into place. It was like God took hold of me and didn't let go.
I went to the northern part of the state for a conferrence. It just happened to be the same place where RC used to live and everywhere I went or looked, I kept thinking about him. A week later I went to visit his sister who lives in the mountains, my favorite place in the world to visit. Again, he is all i could think about.
That was October.
In early November we hosted a student from Israel who was here with a student exchange delegation. I was off most of the week, and I had a lot of time to myself. I prayed alot about where I was heading in life, and I just kept coming back to RC and what we had. I think I took so much for granted.
Since then I have been spending a lot of time with RC and in many ways I am DBing. It felt so familiar to me.
I know that my family and friends all think we belong together, but sometimes they don't have the proper perspective to give me advice. And if you don't mind, I would like to share here and get advice from the wonderful and wise folks that we have here on this forum.
I really could use the point of view from others. Newcomers seemed like the best place to start, for now.
My thread is named for the song by Tanya Tucker. It's one of my favorite songs to sing at karaoke, and it is one of RC's favorites that I sing. Last year he even had that put on my birthday cake on a karaoke machine. Since life kind of feels like that right now, the name seemed to fit.
Before I continue, I need to say that RC has been "talking" to someone who lives 5 hours away. That has been going on for out 2 months now, based on my estimations. I know they have seen each other maybe 3 times in those 2 months. They have been online friends for a couple of years (went to high school together).
Finally, to understand where I am, feel like I need to share a timeline of what has happened.
Please bear with me as I share a timeline of what has happened in the past 6 weeks. ONce I get that posted, I'll be back to share some more.
Any and all input is welcome. God Bless!!
Me 47 Ex H 46 Bomb 9/02 D final 3/04 Ex H now married to OW
------------ This is surviving. There is no such thing as a normal life, there's just life. So get on with it and enjoy it!
Mid to late October Went to conference in northern part of state and realized that RC was on my mind alot. Went to visit his sister at her farm and couldn't get him out of my mind. Realized how much we lost. Started praying a lot and eventually found some peace with that. But God was only getting started on me...
On a last minute request, we were asked to host a student from Israel, and like many other things over the past few months, RC is the first person I want to share the news with. That says alot don't you think?
11/7-11/9 (Monday through Wednesday) RC and I exchanged a few text messages during the week. I talked about our student from Israel that we were hosting. I kept wanting to share things with RC when they happened. As I said, this was one of the things that led me to realize how important he was in my life. We also talked about the upcoming Harvest Festival at church, scheduled for that Saturday, 11/12. I told him I was planning to attend. I knew I had to get up the nerve to go back to church and also face RC. I was praying about it a lot and God was leading me in that direction.
11/10 (Thursday) The student from Israel left. I texted RC to let him know how much fun it had been. He responded that we would have friends for life. We exchanged a few other texts, but nothing big.
11/12 (Saturday) I arrived at the Harvest Festival. I didn’t see RC or his mom, but some other friends were there, including one of my best friends, KM.
I realized that it was pot luck and texted RC to tell him that it was definitely potluck. He apologized and said he didn’t realize. During the text I learn that he is out of town at a college football game. He received tickets from a young lady that attended our church. Her mom is one of RC”s oldest friends, and her two girls are practically his own daughters. Their own dad isn’t a good dad at all, and RC is like a surrgoage father for the two girls.
Then I realized that he wasn’t coming. I was a bit disappointed. That was another clear sign of my feelings for him, as if I needed any more signs. We exchanged a few texts off and on through the Harvest Festival.
A woman who is in our Sunday School class talked to me a bit and asked if RC and I had finally broken up, and I responded yes. She could read my face apparently and said that she didn’t think it was over between us. Then she said that he had a “friend” that he had brought to church a couple of times. But this friend doesn’t live here locally. That confirmed what I had interpreted from Facebook. Again she read my face and asked if it bothered me. I just responded that I wanted him to be happy. She asked if I wanted to get back together with him someday, and I said that the door wasn’t closed on that subject. Later we sat together to eat. I also spent some time talking to RC’s mom (who is like a mom to me – I love that lady), and to my friend Kelly, and other members of church.
The texts with RC continued. He said that he had missed me and hadn’t seen me in awhile. I responded “I know. There has been a lot going on with me and I’m sorry I’ve been AWOL.” He asked if I would be at church the next day and I said yes. He asked if I wanted to go to lunch with him and his mom after church (we haven’t done that in months). I said yes. There were more texts, and then he said to hold on and he would call me when he got to his car. He called shortly after and we talked for awhile about the Festival, the student from Israel, and a few other things. I think he would have kept talking to me for a long time (we could always talk like that), but I was sitting with the woman from church and thought it might be rude. So I said I should probably go and told him I’d see him in the morning. My friend Kelly talked to me a little that night too. I hadn’t seen her much in the past couple of months. She also mentioned that RC was talking to someone. I told her that I kind of assumed that and tonight it was confirmed. I know that she (and many others including my older son) were not shy about telling me that they thought RC and I belonged together and hoped that we would get back together someday.
11/13 (Sunday) I arrived at our Sunday School class as planned. RC is our Sunday School teacher. I asked if I could sit by him (which was what I always did). And during church I sat with him again. It took a lot of guts to do that, knowing that he had a friend who had done the same.
The church pews are hard on my back. I am short and I don’t quite fit in the seats (my legs dangle a bit), so I tend to squirm some or sit forward to ease the strain on my back. As I was sitting there I remember how RC would always ball up his coat or jacket and put it behind my back when I started to squirm. I would have given anything to have him do that for me again. But he had loaned his coat to another woman from church who was cold. I didn’t mention it. But this though is important later in my timeline.
After church we stood in the church hallway and talked with people like we usually do. I heard him tell a friend that he was going out of town for the weekend, and I asked about the trip. He said he was going to see a guy that was best man in his wedding (RC was married before and lost his wife to cancer). He said he hadn’t seen him in years and the guy’s father was in bad shape. He didn’t mention visiting anyone else, but later I confirmed that is where the woman lives.
We decided to ride together to the restaurant. Lunch was great. I sat beside RC. He tapped my leg a couple of times when he was laughing at things. We enjoyed the banter with his mom and it was like old times, like no time had passed at all. His best friend, PH, who he has known since he was little just happened to walk in with his wife. They were meeting some friends. What a nice coincidence. I hadn’t seen them for months so it was good to chat with them for a few. His friend was trying to recover from bronchitis (which has significance for what happened the next night.)
After lunch was over, they drove me back to church. He got out of the back seat and came out to hug me before we said goodbye.
About 2 hours later, he sent me a text. He said how much he enjoyed lunch and that he had missed our “after church lunches with his mom.” I responded that it was great and I had missed it too. We exchanged a couple more texts and then silence.
Later that night, I was flipping through channels and saw that his favorite team, The Patriots, were playing. I sent him a text and said “Go Pats!” He responded with “lol” and we exchanged a few more texts. Then out of the blue, my phone rang. It was RC. I cannot remember exactly why he called, but I don’t think the reason matters. The end result was a 2.5 hour phone conversation about various things. As we became more comfortable we started moving into a little R talk. I can’t remember every detail, but I know that we talked about us, what happened, etc… I told him that I always thought we would get married. He said that he did too. He admitted that he had regrets and I did the same. We talked about how much we missed each other. I also mentioned how I missed the way he would roll up his coat and put it behind my back. I told him that my friend Kelly explained that is a form of intimacy (something that I had said we were missing in our relationship sometimes). He said that he saw me in church that morning, and it was clear I was uncomfortable, and he wanted to give me his cat. But he had loaned it to someone. It shows he was paying attention.
All in all it was a very nice conversation. He was up way past his bedtime, but obviously needed and wanted to talk to me.
That day was obviously the beginning of us trying to fix some things that were damaged. And it clearly wasn’t the end of what we had to say to each other…
Continued below...
Me 47 Ex H 46 Bomb 9/02 D final 3/04 Ex H now married to OW
------------ This is surviving. There is no such thing as a normal life, there's just life. So get on with it and enjoy it!
11/14 (Monday) I can’t recall everything about that day since it was a busy workday, but I know that we exchanged a couple of texts about the day before. I told him how much I enjoyed myself and how great it was to talk to him. I apologized again for how things had gone with us earlier this year, and he did the same. I said that I missed him, and he replied with the same.
Later that afternoon, Kelly’s son texted me about his volleyball game that night. I know that RC had been to some of them because we talked about them. Her son asked me to come to the game. I knew that Monday night was the night that RC usually worked out with his friend PH, so I didn’t really expect him to be there. I didn’t even mention it to RC.
My cell phone died just before I left work and I charged it in the car. I ran home real quick to change and then headed to the game. I arrived at the school where they were playing and turned on my phone. I received a text message suddenly from RC (apparently sent earlier while phone was dead) and said that he had received texts asking him to come to the game. So he guessed he was going to the game. I stared at the phone in disbelief and a BIG SMILE. I walked across the parking lot into the school and responded “Hey, me too…if I can ever find they gym in this place.”
When I walked in the gym his face looked as shocked as mine. He was staring at his cell phone and then looked up to see me walking in with a big smile.
I asked if I could sit beside him and of course he said okay. We talked through the game, again like old times, like no time had gone by. After the game, we stood out in the parking lot for about an hour just talking.
We have a thing we used to do where we would let each other know that we got home okay. We called it our “one ring” thing. So I sent him a quick text and let him know I got home okay. There were a few short texts after, and I took a risk and said “Don’t give up on us okay?”
He responded with shock. He said he thought I had said it was over in the summer. We had a few quick texts, and I could tell his head was swimming a bit (as was mine). He said that his family always welcomed me (referring to his sister’s place, his mom, etc…). But I already knew that.
Later that night I got on Facebook IM with my friend Kelly, and told her what had happened. And for the first time, I opened up about what had been happening in me for the past month. She asked what I wanted to do and I told her that I needed to try to fix this. I admitted that I screwed up and I had to try to make it right. Otherwise I would always wonder. With so many regrets already, I didn’t need any more. She told me to talk to him and lay it all out there.
11/15 (Tuesday) This day was quiet and no texts that stand out to me. I did catch him on Facebook IM later that night and we chatted for a few. But it was all upbeat.
11/16 (Wednesday) I sent him a text and asked if he had plans that night. He said just working out at the Rec Center. I asked if he would meet me so we could talk and I could explain the cryptic text from Monday night. He agreed to meet me at Starbucks near where I had to pick up my son later that night.
We met as planned.
And I really opened up my heart to him. I started out saying that ILY and he responded with the same. I told him that I may have messed up on us, but he messed up too. I talked about what was going on in those weeks just before we broke up. And before I could even list it all, he added some things to it. He admitted that he had regret for the way he wasn’t there for me in some of the tough moments (like one of my best friends passing away suddenly).
We talked for a couple of hours. I asked if he was seeing anyone to confirm what I had heard. He replied that he was “talking to someone.” I didn’t go into any detail on how serious it was. I knew that the woman was 5 hours away (I figured it out based on what I had heard and things I had seen on Facebook). But he didn’t provide any details. It’s just my intuation I guess (later I confirmed I was right about who).
I told him that I wanted to see if we could fix us, and I asked if he would like to spend some time together. He said yes. When we walked to the car, he put his arm around my shoulder and leaned down to kiss me on top of my head (he is much taller than me). He said something about knowing me for 4 years and how you really get to know someone…but I can’t remember exactly what he was responding too.
My son was texting me that it was time to come get him, but I swear he would have stayed there and talked to me for a couple more hours if I had been able to.
When I got home, Kelly was on Facebook and asked me how it went. I told her it was good and she responded “hopeful?” and I said I think so. He also sent her an IM and asked if I was giving her all the dirt about our conversation. It was funny because it caught her off guard, but I had told him that Kelly was eagerly awaiting an update about our talk.
11/17 (Thursday) We exchanged some texts about the night before and I told him how good it was to talk to him. I apologized that I had to rush off.
11/18 (Friday)I went to a wine tasting with Kelly that night. RC and I exchanged some texts that day and some more that night at the wine tasting. He was on his way out of town for his weekend trip. The texts continued most of the night. (I don’t even want to know if he was texting while driving. SMILE)
11/19 & 11/20 (Saturday & Sunday) No contact at all. Obviously.
Continued on next post...
Me 47 Ex H 46 Bomb 9/02 D final 3/04 Ex H now married to OW
------------ This is surviving. There is no such thing as a normal life, there's just life. So get on with it and enjoy it!
11/22 (Tuesday) We discussed doing something on that Friday, the day after Thanksgiving, since neither of us have to work. We had mentioned it when we met at Starbucks. Once he confirmed that he was off, we decided to go to some outlets and a Christmas event that is about 1.5 hours away.
11/23 (Wednesday, day before Thanksgiving) I remembered RC said he had tickets to a basketball game and was going with his best friend PH. And I thought about his mom being alone after church. I knew she would go to Thanksgiving communion (I was planning to go too), and I knew that we talked about things we are thankful for. Thinking about this being the first holidays without her husband of 46 years, I didn’t want her to be alone. So I called her and offered to have a girls night with her after church service. She loved the idea.
Later she called and asked if I wanted to do dinner. I thought it was a great idea.
So we went to dinner. During dinner I sent RC some texts from her phone, with some goofy things I know they would be saying during the breaks at the game. He figured out it was me obviously.
After, we went back to their house and she and I played Yathzee. My old pad from last time was still there so I just used it. There was another name on one of the pads and she tried to pass it off as being something htat had been in there for years (gotta love that woman), but I knew it was the other lady. I just pretended to be clueless.
RC came home later and we all played Yathzee. We ended up talking a lot after and I didn’t leave until nearly 2am.
11/24 (Thanksgiving) I had to be up early because I was helping prepare dinner at a church that was serviing dinner to the homeless. I planned to meet my boys at my brother’s hosue later that day. After being up so late I was dragging a bit, but I made it and the event was very rewarding for me personally.
On the way to my brother’s I called RC to say Happy Thanksgiving and chatted with him and his mom for a few. I explained how it felt so wrong to not be there with them, when it had always been “us” for the past 4 years. He agreed, but I dropped the topic.
While I was talking to his mom, she invited me to come over later for dessert or something, if I wasn’t doing anything later after I had dinner with my brother. I pondered this a lot that day. I finally decided to take her up on the offer. I went to their house and again was there pretty late.
That night, the phone rang (around the same time I have noticed it ring before) but they both ignored it. I saw her glance at the clock. I figured it was probably his lady friend. I couldn’t confirm and he didnd’t seem to mind not answering, so the night continued. I’ve seen this happen a few times now, and he always ignores the call – always around the same time if I am over there.
11/25 (Friday, Day after Thanksgiving) As planned, RC picked me up from my house and we drove to the outlet and Christmas thing. We shopped for quite awhile. He helped me find shoes. The clerks assumed we were married and we didn’t correct them. There was one moment when I turned around to walk toward the clerk and I felt him rub the back of my head. I didn’t know what that was about, but I didn’t mind. I just kept walking.
We had a nice time, bought some gifts, and then went to the Christmas thing. It was full so we decided to go somewhere else. We walked around a merchant squarer for a couple of hours, sat on a bench talking…under normal circumstances, I would say it was a very romantic evening. But we didn’t hold hands, touch, etc…It was not the same as when we were together, obviously.
We talked about a bottle of wine he bought me last year that we never drank. I offered him a deal. “I will make you dinner, if you will come help me drink the wine.”
He drove me back home and he came in for awhile. We talked some more. I told him that it seems like I really messed up on us and he asked "Do you really think so?" It was so hard to read what he meant by things he was saying, and it still is today almost one month later. I told him that I was sorry for the past 4 months and for taking so long to get up the nerve to talk to him. I said I wish I could undo it all. He said it's just like what the Bible says "East from the West" basically telling me all was forgiven. I don't know what came over me but the next I knew, I had taken his face in my hands and planted a big powerful kiss on him. He didn't stop me. In fact he kissed me back. It wasn't passionate, just firm and direct - making it very clear how I felt.
We said goodbye and he left. 11/26 (Saturday) He took his mom and grandson to their family reunion out of town. I heard from him just once to learn that he wasn't coming to karaoke with some friends.
11/27 (Sunday) I went to Sunday School and sat by him as usual. During church he balled up his coat and put it behind my back. It made me smile because I knew what I had told him the week before when we talked on the phone. Sure, maybe he was just being a nice guy. But I knew that he knew how much it meant to me.
I didn't know if there would be another lunch invitation after church. There often were when we were together. But when church was over, he said that he and his mom were going to the cemetary to put flowers on his dad's grave. There was a time when I would have been invited, but not this time. We said goodbye and I drove home. Tears started streaming down my face.
I took a nap and then my older son came over and we started decorating for Christmas. It wasn't the same without RC helping us. I sent him a few texts, telling jokes about the decorating of Christmases past and we had a few chuckles. I told him we missed him and he said "Sure, you just miss me helping you with all those heavy boxes" meant to be a joke.
Before my older son left, I told him what had been going on and how I had taken a chance and talked to RC and spent time with him. He was so happy. He loves RC and always hoped we would get back together. They still talk sometimes too.
More happened after my son left, but that will have to come on the next post...
Me 47 Ex H 46 Bomb 9/02 D final 3/04 Ex H now married to OW
------------ This is surviving. There is no such thing as a normal life, there's just life. So get on with it and enjoy it!
11/27 – the rest of the night RC and I started talking on Facebook IM. It was a continuance of the earlier text messages. I said that I wanted to spend time together and work on us. He responded that he thought that was what we were doing. I tried to explain myself, but before I could type anything, he responded that his family loves me and I am always welcome – at his sister’s farm, etc.. Then he said “We are ALWAYS friends.” I responded “Is that all you want? To be friends?” Then he said, “I think I told you that I was talking to someone. And you said you had dated, or whatever you said.” I responded that I didn’t know how serious the thing with the other person was and that there was nobody in my life and I was not dating anyone.
Seeing where the conversation was going, I picked up the phone and called him.
We talked for 2 hours.
He told me more about his lady friend and confirmed some things I expected. He didn’t say her name, but I know who she is.
She lives 5 hours away and he doesn’t know exactly how that will work. He said that she also lost her husband and they had that in common. He said that his mom had met her but that his mom didn’t like the fact that she had a different religious background. She is Mormon which is so much different from being a Baptist.
We talked more about what happened in our relationship.
Somewhere in the conversation, God whispered in my ear “TELL HIM EVERYTHING AND LEAVE NOTHING OUT, NO REGRETS.” I stumbled and stuttered, but all of a sudden, I poured out everything in my heart. I told him how I thought we belonged together. I told him that my dreams are his dreams and the break let me see that. I could go on and on about what I said and what he said, but there was nothing left that I did not say. I knew that if I never talked to this man again, he would know how I felt.
I did everything except ask him to marry me. He got choked up and started to lose it.
I told him that I didn’t know why God wanted me to tell him all of this when I know I am going to be rejected. He responded and said it is so clear that God is working on you.
He told me I was incredible a couple of times. At one point I was crying and he said “It’s okay BabyDoll.” He used to call me that and I have really been missing hearing him call me that.
He said that I had given him so much in that conversation and he was happy I shared all that.
He said that he felt that this other lady deserved a chance and he wanted to see where it would go. Then he said “But since you are taking risks and putting yourself out there, I’m going to put myself out there and ask you something. If I decide that his other thing is just a friendship and I ask to spend time with you, what would you say?” I responded that I couldn’t say no.
He said that his head was about to explode and he probably wouldn’t get much sleep. We ended the call saying ILY.
Before I went to bed I sent him the link to a song I had mentioned during the call. Every time I hear it I think about RC. It makes me want to give all my heart and take risks. I sent him a text and let him know that I sent the link as promised.
11/28 (Monday) RC sent me a text that morning to say he would listen to the song when he got home from work. I responded and said thanks for the talk. I apologized for keeping him up so late, but said that I meant everything I said. He responded and thanked me for telling him everything and that he had a lot of regrets. He said he didn’t get much sleep.
He didn’t ever respond to me about the song. I saw him on Facebook later that night and asked if he listened to it. He said he had and he thought he had heard it before, but he didn’t respond to the song. I kept the conversation light after that.
Me 47 Ex H 46 Bomb 9/02 D final 3/04 Ex H now married to OW
------------ This is surviving. There is no such thing as a normal life, there's just life. So get on with it and enjoy it!
And since you say he was talking to this high school friend for the last couple of years - do you have any suspicions that you may have been picking up on that and that it was an issue in your relationship before you broke up? As in, maybe you were reacting to him not being there for you, but the reason for that was him having, if not an EA, maybe just longing for this old girlfriend?
And - how sure are you that he is the right guy for you, versus just it was scary to be alone and dating again, so you chickened out? (I mean, it does sound promising that so many others in your life apparently felt you were right for each other, but I still think it's an honest question you have to ask yourself).
Sorry Ellie. I was feeling icky last night and didn't finish. I know he hasn't seen the lady since she is so far away. I have been with him every weekend in some fashion. But I think he will see her over New Year's. I am going to post the rest of the timeline now, so you can see what has happened since that big R talk.
Me 47 Ex H 46 Bomb 9/02 D final 3/04 Ex H now married to OW
------------ This is surviving. There is no such thing as a normal life, there's just life. So get on with it and enjoy it!
11/29 (Tuesday) We exchanged some fun texts. I call them fun texts because they are very light hearted and really don’t mean anything. He sends me song lyrics and I try to respond with the next line in the song. I do the same. His are usually songs from the Civil War since he is a histoy buff and into re-enacting. Mine are more current. We also talk about goofy things that nobody would get -- jokes and moments from our history together. These kinds of texts happen often now since we are talking again.
All day and night (and also on Sunday and Monday) I kept hearing the voice of the music director at church asking me to sing at the Hanging of the Greens on Sunday, 12/1. This is our evening Christmas program where the kids decorate the tree while we have music. We also decorate the sanctuary, hang wreathes in the church, and put out the candles.
I love to sing and do karaoke all the time, but I haven’t sang a solo since high school. But I knew God was tugging at my heart and telling me to sing. That night I finally gave in and called Judy. “Hey Judy? This is MAL. I’m supposed to sing.” I told her the song (my grandma’s favorite, she passed away years ago), Silent Night. I told her that God has been pushing me and I need to listen. She asked if I played an instrument or had the music on a track. I responded “Nope, and if you don’t help me, I am doing this accapella. Talk about a leap of faith.” She laughed.
She asked me if I could come to church on Wednesday night to run through the song with the new pianist. She asked if I wanted to come to Bible Study which started at 7 and choir is after that. I could run through the song then. I said okay.
11/30 (Wednesday) More fun texting.
I went to Bible Study as planned. As I was sitting there I realized how much I liked it and why I never really made it a priority before. And in that moment I knew I would be coming to church on Wednesday nights now. Again, I knew God was working on me.
After Bible Study the choir got ready to practice the Christmas Cantata. Judy asked me if I wanted to sit with them and sing. I said okay and got the book. We went through one of the songs for the upcoming Sunday service before we started the Cantata. We stopped so the pastor (who is also in the choir) could pray. While praying he expressed thanks for all of the people that showed up for choir practice that night.
When we were done I looked up and said to myself “Okay, I hear you. I guess I’m supposed to join the chioir too huh? You’ve got me.” After practice Judy asked how I liked it and I responded I loved it and I guess I’m in the choir now. She was shocked and happy.
After that I ran through Silent Night with the pianist. I was so nervous but again was taking that leap of faith.
12/1 (Thursday) More fun and light-hearted texting.
RC gets off work a few hours before me. So most of the time once he is off from work, I don’t hear from him. This is one of the days when it was different.
In the early evening, I got a text telling me he was taking his mom out to dinner. We were texting back and forth before the dinner, a little bit during, and then a lot after. We joked about how much she liked the onion rings, lots of things. The usual banter that we enjoy.
Later on he sent me a text and asked if I was going to the pastor’s surprise birthday party the next night. I said yes and asked if he was going. He responded yes.
Hmmm...another night to see him and figure out what is going on with us.
Me 47 Ex H 46 Bomb 9/02 D final 3/04 Ex H now married to OW
------------ This is surviving. There is no such thing as a normal life, there's just life. So get on with it and enjoy it!
