Living with a WAW while going through a D part II

[workinghardguy]

W really never put much emotions into any celebrations

It's sad but I have the same feeling Rick... in some ways, this will be the first Christmas where I actually will receive gifts that I want but only because I bought them. For years my W has never put much effort into gift giving or the holidays. I always put so much energy into it that it became a point of resentment between us, but since I didn't want to upset the apple cart I never said anything.

If my W had her way all the gifts would be under the tree still in the shopping bags they came in. No wrapping, no bows, nothing. There was one Christmas about two or three years ago where my W did a great job getting gifts, but generally she put such little thought into it. Over the years as her level of investment in gift giving got less I always wondered if there were deeper problems in our R, but was afraid to ask because I didn't want to hear the answer.

Then again I will never forget the second Christmas we were together. Her dad dropped off our gifts and they were this random assortment of stuff that we were both fairly sure he "lifted" from where he was working at the time. And they were all tossed into a Walmart bag. Like father, like daughter.