Separated But Living Under the Same Roof

[workinghardguy]

Crimson... she does want you to be disinterested, and if you remember part of this is loving our spouse they way they want to be loved, not how we want to love them.

She wants you to be disinterested and separate... so be that. If she wants you to be interested she'll tell you. My W makes it clear when she wants me to be interested, and my biggest weakness is giving in to that too readily.

I can't remember if you are living apart or together... if you're still together I empathize with you. It's doubly tough to disengage and be disinterested when you see them as soon as you roll out of bed.