Hi Ash, I'm glad you found this forum. Of course, I'm not familiar with your story so your description above was great insight.
There should be others come along to help you through this.
I do not know if you classify yourself as the WAS. Based on what you've mentioned, though... I would say take your time.
Although a lot of time has passed and he may be trying to move on with his life, you mention he is attempting to connect with you and is friendlier with you.
Be slow and cautious, no matter how much you would like to rekindle your R. Anything that might seem like pressure or pursuing from you, might scare him off and make him go dark, again.
I wish you well in this.
Dress well. If you know you will see him, a light amount of perfume... BE confident. Be warm and open. LISTEN to him and validate him, without smothering him.
Do you have any latent anger or resentment left from your past M that you might want to look at so you aren't triggered if he says or does something you feel is negative?
