You may not understand what I'm going to say, but here goes. To look for the WAW to have an "open heart" is wishful thinking, IMHO. The WAW package is setting on a foundation of her having a closed heart to you. You cannot say anything to "encourage" her to open her heart. She will fight anyone who tries to change her mind about it. Therefore, it will be best for you to not entertain any thoughts around that subject.
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What she said she wanted has not brought about the feelings she previously thought would come. My suggestion is to pull back a little when she "invites" you for a family type event.
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The best thing a man can do (IMO) to cause the WAW to wrestle with her decisions, is for him to be [b]disinterested in her. She sees him moving on, quite happily, and totally over her. When this entire thing has come around to bite her in the a$$, then she'll see the big mistake she's made. But as long as she sees life without you being better than life with you, she won't desire to change her decisions.
Sandi -
There are times that I honestly think you have been talking to my W. She really did get sh*tty with anyone that tried to change her mind. Her heart is closed to me - for now. I guess I am hopeful.
You have really helped me better understand where my wife is at the moment. Though I will say that acting disinterested is terrifying because I feel that she WANTS me to be disinterested and just leave her alone. Regardless, you are an awesome resource for us LBHs.
