I have noticed that W has been making high caloric and fatty dinners for me only. She has been melting cheese in everything,There are 2 reasons for this.: 1; she does not want me looking good 2: wants me to have a coronary. Tonight iis my night to cook. Made plain white rice baked chicken and steamed veggies.
In addition I began using the elliptical machine. I trully hate cardio stuff but wth.Started with 5 minutes last might and today. will be happy when I do 20. boring
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
Rick, you crack me up some times! I think there is a third option. She is plumping you up so she can shove you in the oven and make a meal out of you! Mmmmm, nothing better than LBS over white rice and steamed veggies!
Me51 W53 S17 S14 M22 T25 Bomb-9/11; A-11/11; I move out 11/11
It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.
Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
2TP LBS over white rice and steamed veggies. That sounds like a great idea. An eatery for LBS only. Think about the income since millions are left every year. Like a DB restaurant with computers and a unique LBS menu? Sounds cool it can also have counseling rooms. Ghezzzz can you see $$$$$$
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
Yesterday I remember something that occured to me when I was about 15 or 16. I might share that some day (both funny and gross). Really haven't thought of that since it happened. But than I started to think about the person I used to be. The one my W feel in love with. I have been asked that here before and TBH could not remember. Yes I was always a jealous guy. But I was unpredictable, funny, and really didn't care about too many things. Just loved to have fun and rarely got angry. Somewhere along the way I became this intense, predictable, angry, worried about everything person. One of W's complaints is that I take everything too seriously. She is right. So I have been looking for some of the old me but only the good parts and leaving the bad parts behind. A 180 for me is to stop worrying too much. I have not control of many things. That would be really good for me and my sanity. I always worried that I would lose everything that I have and thought I could control things. Yet here I am about to lose it all. That is where I am today.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
Nah... you're not going to lose it all Rick... no matter what you will still have your daughter. You will still have an R with your W. It will be different perhaps, but you will still be connected (through your d). There will be weddings, babies, birthdays, graduations, and so on... but you're not going to lose it all. It just may be different.
This isn't about losing... it's about what we have changing into something else. Our R's with our wives aren't lost... they simply change into a different kind of R. If something's lost you have to find it before you can do anything with it. But if something's changed then, if it changed once, it can always change again.
Married 6 together 8 Me:38 W:31 second marriage for both SS12, SD10, S6 Bomb: 9/8/11 (day before our 5 yr ann) W moved out: 2/18/12 D final: 11/12/12 Share S 50/50. Spend as much time as I can with SS & SD
I like to add a little reality check to my stich. Today I picked up a mom who's son we are serving. He is in a detention center due to robbery but has mental health issues. I have negotiated with the judge to let me place him in a therapeutic setting instead.
Went to pick up mom 1st in a vey dangerous neigborhood. They are from Honduras and she does not speak English. As we drove to pick up her son at the jail she pulls a picture of her 14 year old daughter. Very pretty, and than tells me that her daughther and niece were abducted and found dead the following day. This happened in September. This happened in Honduras and the last time she saw her was in 2004. She tells me 2 of her sons are still there. The one son that is here, came by himself when he was about 14.5 years old. It took him about a month to cross the border. Pretty tough kid, huh? She also told me how scared she was when crossing Mexico and the deserts she encountered on foot.
On top of all that she says she lives in a house with 10 people, they all share one bathroom and pays 600$ in rent. WTH???
But she seems happy even though she has gone through all this trauma. Dunno tought I should share.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
Rick, you crack me up some times! I think there is a third option. She is plumping you up so she can shove you in the oven and make a meal out of you! Mmmmm, nothing better than LBS over white rice and steamed veggies!
OR she thinks they are comfort foods for you;
OR she thinks your cooking is too bland & wants you to notice;
OR she put no real thought into it at all and
uses cheese as the "American Equalizer" in all foods....and we are spending time and energy mindreading...
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
I like to add a little reality check to my stich. Today I picked up a mom who's son we are serving. He is in a detention center due to robbery but has mental health issues. I have negotiated with the judge to let me place him in a therapeutic setting instead.
Went to pick up mom 1st in a vey dangerous neigborhood. They are from Honduras and she does not speak English. As we drove to pick up her son at the jail she pulls a picture of her 14 year old daughter. Very pretty, and than tells me that her daughther and niece were abducted and found dead the following day. This happened in September. This happened in Honduras and the last time she saw her was in 2004. She tells me 2 of her sons are still there. The one son that is here, came by himself when he was about 14.5 years old. It took him about a month to cross the border. Pretty tough kid, huh? She also told me how scared she was when crossing Mexico and the deserts she encountered on foot.
On top of all that she says she lives in a house with 10 people, they all share one bathroom and pays 600$ in rent. WTH???
But she seems happy even though she has gone through all this trauma. Dunno tought I should share.
puts things in perspective, doesn't it?
it's one of the reasons when people start their pity parties and begin
swirling in negative vortexes here (and I had my share of those days)
I tell myself:
"You want UNFAIR? GO see Africa."
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Mmmmm, nothing better than LBS over white rice and steamed veggies! 