It sounds like she's acting paranoid. All I can tie this back to is my theory that she is making you out to be a mustache-twisting villain to justify what she's doing.

She's giving you a role to play to make her feel better about her actions, and unfortunately for her, you're not playing your role. You're actually being civil, a good father, pleasant and supportive.

She probably realizes that and the more it sinks in, the worse she feels about her actions. Eventually she can't take it anymore and she has to go off on another tirade about how evil you are to stoke her imaginary justification.

I think the best thing you can do is to shift your perspective and see it as coming from a place of fear on W's part. Do not play the role she's trying to push you into. She wants you to be mean and nasty so she can say "SEE! I've made the right decision" Don't give her that satisfaction.

Crimson is going through something similar, only not as bad. W wants you to act out to reinforce the choices she has made. She's baiting you.

Continue to be pleasant and supportive, "act as if" it doesn't bother you. That's all you can do.

Accuray


Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015