A big backslide...I told him that I missed him (in the middle of the above texting convo). I don't know why I had to do that. I guess I wanted him to know that I cared, but I know that he's not in a state now where he can receive that well and I'm sure it pushed him further away (2X4 please!). But what am I supposed to do when he starts talking about R? He asked me what I was thinking about all of this. I told him that we are in a rough spot and we need to take small steps to make things better. He always turns the tables and asks me what I'm thinking about all of this. I tell him that we need to take time to try to work stuff out. I know it's not the right thing to say, but what am I supposed to say? Ugh. He's so good at turning tables. Never wanting to share his opinion, or keeping it very short then passing the torch to me. Then, I end up saying things I shouldn't have and push him away.
