What else could I have done?

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Forgive her for her wrongs just as you expected her to forgive you, yours.

Hi Barb. My counselor is telling me that it's important for me to forgive...in order to let go of the pain and move on. A lot is said on this board about forgiveness...25 has on her posts that "Forgiveness is a gift that you give yourself". You encouraged me to forgive my ex, just as I would like her to forgive me. How is it that you, and Gineen...admittedly, have been able to let go and move on without forgiving? Honest and sincere question there. I've been kicking it around because I really want to be able to let go and move on. And I want to do whatever it takes to be able to do that. I want to be healthy physically, mentally, and emotionally. I don't think I'm to where I can do it right now, but if it's necessary, then I want to do whatever is necessary in order to be more focused and moving on in a positive way.

Barb, I'm sorry for your hardships. I've been an ER nurse for 26 years now, and I've seen lots of bad stuff like that. God bless you for continuing to love and care for your son. It takes a special kind of sorry-ass person to 'bail' like your ex did on a situation like that. I'm sure your heartache and feelings of betrayal have been huge.