My goal is to be confident again. I want to stop my passive/agressive ways. I made ALOT of progress in the year that past but want to keep progressing to a better me in regards of facing my fears dead on!
These are great goals! Following a solution oriented methodology would have us ask questions such as ...
When you are confident what will that look like? Sound like?
When you have stopped being passive/aggressive, what will you be doing? How will you be behaving?
I see HUGE value in approaching personal growth this way. I do, however, think that making changes is only part of the battle. That's called "fakin' it till ya make it" and it works. It helps new, healthier behaviours become habit. In order to change YOU though, not just your behaviours, you have to dig out what attitudes, beliefs, programming is in place that drove those destructive or unhealthy behaviours in the first place. You need to figure out WHY. Ok, well you don't NEED to I guess, if you can maintain the changes without it I say go for it, it's just that I haven't yet met anyone who could. When things get tough, when life is hard and painful, we tend to revert to what our core tells us. THAT's why we need to reprogram.
So, along with answering the questions above ... I think we need to dig into the why's ... if you're game ...
PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
