Sunshine: are you sure we're not related?? "Unfortunately, it has taken getting pretty darn close to losing everything for us to wake up and realize that we need to make some drastic changes in our lives." My H got mad in one of our joint sessions and asked why he had to move out for me to even take a step towards change... I had no excuse. I simply said: "I'm really hard headed, I needed a 2x4 upside my head to get me to pay attention." I can't lie- I've been beating myself up for not paying closer attention to him sooner.
"I don't know about you, but I was incredibly unhappy with myself and I took life and my W for granted. This has been a huge wake up call and I definetely do not want to make the same mistakes in the future." Ditto. I know that my H wasn't perfect in the M. But he did put up with a lot from me and my 'crazy' self (involving throwing things and a power drill... one of the few outbursts I do remember)... and through all of that, he would hug me and say: "I'm not giving up on you yet, I love you." I m so sad that I took that level of commitment for granted.
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12