I can handle the forceful and direct feedback, in fact I prefer it. So no need to apologize.
I see your point about shutting the heck up and showing her more changes. I just struggle, like most in my situation with a w that has moved out, with HOW to show her. That is really a problem. Again, I know I am probably wrong here and will most likely go against my gut and not address the "extras" she brought up outside of the logistics. I just feel anxious, like I am missing an opportunity not to say "look at me!!!! I'm changing!! But to say "I'm taking ownership of my role in this and am working on me right now". Not that verbatim, but something along those lines. If I am waaaay off base here, which is what I am sensing here, I can accept it.
