So I have a theory. W is still casual friends with the neighbors across the street and very good friends with the neighbors a few houses down. Two weekends ago a friend of mine went with me to my company Christmas party (very plutonic). She stayed at the house for a day or two and I when we were backing out of the driveway she waved at the neighbor and his son - from a moving vehicle that could have very easily looked like my W. I'm going out on a limb and guessing that the neighbors spoke and thought they saw her and it eventually made it's way back to her. Not that it matters in any way.
Am I crazy for thinking that this is incident is an opportunity? I am OK glossing over the dating remark - even though I fear that it will send a green light to her to date. Again - that would bother me. Still I feel like I need to say something about the transformations remark. If the overall consensus of the vets here is otherwise, I will go with it. I just feel like she opened a little window and I am not taking advantage of it. Again - I have no physical contact with her at all really. E-mail and text is all I have. I do not want to make it a "pursuit" thing at all - I just don't want the fact that she has (on her own) noticed changes to go unaddressed. How can I show her that marriage to me would be different/better from this point forward?
I don't want to reveal too much about what I have going on - I understand the notion of maintaining mystery. However, in the absence of personal contact how is she to know things are changing? Again, I get that these changes are for me - but I am very honest about wanting to save my M. In order to do that, how can I not involve her in some manner? I feel like I have detached - there is not a lot of reaching out on my part, but when does one reasonably throw out a signal? This is the one of the rare times that she has even mentioned anything along these lines - should I just let it pass?
I am perfectly willing to admit I am wrong about this if I am. I feel I may be.
