Jesus WHG you really hit the nail on the head - I don't know if anyone could have said it better.
This post has helped me SO!!!!! MUCH!!!!!
It's true that my emotions (and in an earlier stage my actions) range through all of the responses you so neatly outlined.
WHG quote - "And that's the most I can offer... the true show of character is not in the outcome, but how you conduct yourself in getting there"
You know this quote of yours brought me to tears (I used to be a tough guy before the bomb dropped). My hats off to you. I will be sharing this quote with my sons!
_______________________________________________________ me - 53, her - 45, married - 24 yrs live together, separate rooms 3 sons - 24,21,13 bombed - March 2011
