Never thought I'd be here......part 2

[CO1978]

I wouldn't even bring up you aren't dating anyone (try to leave some mystery :P ). So I would go with just:
Let’s try to think of something that would work for both of us. I would like to have part of Christmas Eve or part of Christmas morning if possible. I have no problems moving beyond how things worked in the past – so I am not tied to what has typically gone down by any means. In fact, I am open to “new” these days.
I also wouldn't say anything about the "transformations" she notices them and I think thats good enough for now, and you don't want to make it seem the changes are only for her.