Destiny, Do what you want, but I would have let him know that I was going out for drinks. The reason I am saying this is because it looks like you are "getting back" at him for being out the other night and coming home late. You may not even be aware of how it looks on the other side, but he may think that is what you are doing, i.e., punishing him in a passive/aggressive way.
Also, your expectations for him have to be set at zero at all times. He's still trying to work through a lot of issues and maybe he's just not ready to give 100%. A lot of people get tagged as "lazy", when, in fact, they are depressed. I wouldn't be the least bit surprised to read later on that he is suffering from depression. It could be the holidays are triggering sad memories, the weather, the season, etc., we just don't know.
Yes, it is frustrating for you and I understand that, but you do not know what is going through his head and he may not feel "safe" enough to talk to you about it. Destiny, please step back, give him some room to breathe and allow him to come to you when he is ready. If you do not, he just may very well turn to the ow for conversation and comfort...none of us want to see that happen.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
