LAbug - it's so sweet of you to answer my SOS signal and I do think you are correct about detaching. I do think I have increased my abiltiy to detach from months of 0% to getting to a very high percentage. But, those dark moments are still pretty tough, but really they are getting easier to handle.
As for my W, yeah she is exhibiting everything I wrote about but she is also heavily into a life crisis and psychiatric treatment so in some ways I have hope. If she finds her answers to her life traumas and can live differently with them then maybe she will soften and R, etc. I do see that my W can have multiple responses to the same stimulus so yes, I see the extremes in her.
Hey, in more more lucid moments I can maybe help you through this too so don't be afraid to reach out! I wish the best for you.
