Thanks Adinva,

You are right, I do feel lucky to have the situation I have at this point, it was much much worse in July.

I'm not sure W will go for a schedule, there are some nights where she just won't be willing, and if that happened to be a scheduled night she would resent having to do it anyway. I appreciate the suggestion about trying to find a way to reduce the uncertainty and I'll think about what else I can do.

WRT the taking, I don't know what to do about that. It's a scar, you know? Like anybody (I think) it's nice to feel wanted once in a while. I never tell W it was "bad", and I don't think she ever feels I look at it that way. I'm never down or hangdog afterwards, I'm usually very happy. It's the next day that I usually get the hangover.

Accuray


Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015