Newbie: Is this MLC and how do I GAL?

[workinghardguy]

Do what works. If distancing draws him closer then keep doing it. If it stops working then don't do it anymore. Rarely is there "one event" that will make or break anything. It wasn't one event that got things to where they are, it was a million tiny drops that became the torrential river.

Let him lead. If he wants to talk R, then talk R. On the drive to the cruise if brings it up then go there, but remain detached. No pleading or begging...

And he's all over the map, because he's all over the map. If you look through sitches you'll see the same narrative. Closer, farther, closer, big pullback, cold, distant, then chatty, then closer, then "love", then cold.... bah! Consistent behaviors are what you're looking for; not one day this then one day that.