Too little, Too late.

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P:
I completely understand where you are coming from, and I would like to lend you some support. My sitch has had me in a deep funk way too many times during the past months/years,and I almost lost myself in it. You simply cannot do that. You need to be strong for yourself and strong for your kids. My W moved 1500 miles away 4.5 months ago, after over two years of turmoil, depression and instability. She is on her own journey, and I have now realized that I need to detach and let her move forward on her own. Doing anything else is only hurting both of us, and probably me more that her. She is in a fog of her own making, and has to make it through on her own.

I would suggest your H is on a similar path. He is all wrapped up inside his own head. You have to take care of yourself and your kids....keep up those GAL activities, get out, see friends, work out, get outside, have fun activities with the little ones....make you the best you can be, get that inner glow back. Show yourself (and your H) how wonderful and confident you can be. Make yourself the woman he would be crazy to leave.

I have been on this long, rough road for a long, long time now, and I cannot tell you that my W is coming back. I do know that I can be proud that I took the high road and supported her through all the troubles. I have undergone real changes, and, yes, she is crazy to leave me. She just does not know that....and maybe never will.

In your case, the road is also long, and ain't anyway close to over. You have a lot of fighting to do for you, and for your kids. Everytime you get in a funk, pull yourself up and move forward. Dwelling on the negative helps no one and hurts everyone. Don't do that to yourself or your kids. Put on your game face and pull yourself up. Keep on keeping on. Be proud of who you are and what you can be. Do it in spite of your sitch. You are in charge...make your kids proud of you, now and forever. Be strong and hang in there.