Earlier on in my DB "journey", I set these 4 short term goals (thank you Sandi2). I think I have met all four, and now don't know where to go from here. Do I build on these four somehow or do I create totally new ones? Should the new ones be a bit more "lofty"?
1.) Have exchanges periodically with her via text that are not negative
I have managed to do this. Mostly because they all relate to our son, but that they have been positive - and not many (if any) negatives.
2.) Have her notice ANY difference in me at all
She has commented directly to me about not being on my BlackBerry, and texted regarding me doing more reading and less TV and getting out and hiking with son, etc. - not too bad. Of course, this means nothing per se - but at least she has noticed a few small things.
3.) Exercise enough discipline to limit conversations (text, mostly)
After she said she wanted to limit convos to the baby or our pending D this became easy. Check this one off the list.
4.) Get out and LIVE and see if she notices
See #2 above. I HAVE been getting out more and recently joined meetup.com to search for interesting stuff to do in my area (if you are struggling with GAL, give it a try - pretty cool). Doubtful if she had noticed too much, but that is quite alright.
I should be happy that I met these simple little goals - and I suppose I am. I think I would feel better if I felt they had an impact in improving my situation to some degree- but who knows? Maybe they have.
