To ask but not to pry

[workinghardguy]

It sounds like you're trying to justify making a connection to soothe your own needs during this emotional time.

And I'm not trying to sound harsh... I get it. I was just walking across the street to our company luncheon and a co-worker off-handedly said, "I'm so ready to get into 2012"... and all I could think of was, the last thing I want is next year to come. That's the year all this potentially comes apart.

If she wants to confide in you she will. Maybe others will chime in... it may be ok to ask, just once, "you seem more down than normal, are you ok?" and if she blows you off then you're done asking that. BUT, realize she already knows where to find you and how to talk to you. She's just choosing not to do it.