The holidays are here and our situations make them tougher. We have choices to make in the coming new year - continue to DB, throw in the towel, what presents to buy, etc...We have continued to do things together as a family - movies, amusement parks, etc. But at night we go our separate ways.
I have noticed that my W has pulled away more recently. When we have convos about our day, she really doesn't share much, "Oh, the same old stuff." I am trying to establish some sort of connection - yeah I know 2X4 for trying for something that isn't there. But we used to talk during the work day and then when she got home.
I understand the season has a lot of meaning for all of us. This will be the fourth one without her father. The first one since she has dropped the bomb.
How would I go about asking her about what is going on? I don't want to have a R talk but just a connection about feelings. I know now that to share feelings with one another is like a R talk but when you have been with someone 12+ years you just know something is wrong.
This would be a 180 for me to ask her. She was always the one to put the question to me.
Does this make any sense or am I just pushing her away?
M 38 W 50 S 9, D 6 T 12 M 10 W's 1st EA 4/2007 stopped after confront W's 2nd EA 6/2010 Separated 7/2010 I bomb dropped 7/2010 MC 2/2011 - 3/2011 W bomb dropped 4/2011 Nothing filed or done
