Thanks H. I'm a little embarrassed that this gets to me the way it does.....and by the fact that I actually have that book within arms reach. But at least I can say no "I" for me. It was suggested by my IC a couple years ago and I had it filed away with the others from last year.....my own library of personal flaws.
This situation is so similar to a traumatic experience I had before; hard to be objective about it. Even after re-reading the book it's hard to know how legit some of the issues are. But I am, clearly, a slow learner in this regard so I'll keep at it.
By the way I leveled with my W last night. Used the DBing principles, kept it *very* short, calm. It went ok, she seemed to understand, and we agreed on a plan on how to deal with it in the future. Basically, she gave me permission to be annoyed, just not with her.
