IS- Congrats on sticking to your 180 goal! You'll find that the more you choose to do your 180s, it becomes more natural and then the 'norm'. My H has commented a few times that he's noticed some changes... My first reaction is to throw a mini party for myself, but I just say: "thanks" and leave it at that. (A LOT easier said than done!)

I too am having a hard time detaching especially when I experience a good time with H and the kids. I have to remind my self that it doesn't mean anything, don't expect this to become the norm. I like what VAl said about DB as a tactic or change of heart- I think this is great advice. I needed to hear it too.

Detach, detach, detach... I think we should put sticky notes on the mirror, in the fridge, in the car- that remind us of this every day.

M-31, H-31
T-9, M-7
S-6, s-20mth
sep 8/1/11
ILYNILWY 11/29/11
Creating separation papers.
Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12
H moves out 1.20.12