Living with a WAW while going through a D part II

[Rick1963]

I just want to give newcomers a word of hope and share what I have learned so far. When I came here the words GAL, and PMA were confusing to say the least. It is hard to feel anything other than depression, fear, dispair, and anxities. Your head is always spinning and the emotional pain is unreal. The rejection from your WAS is hard to understand and accept. You come to believe that you are at your WAS's mercy. There are unintended consequences with all of this, for me it was weight loss. I was not overweight but I lost 20lbs, could not sleep more than 3 hrs and the crying for no reason became a problem at work.

I am by no means an expert DBer nor have I been successful at repairing my R, yet. But you must GAL and have a PMA. I know it is hard to grasp the concept at 1st but in time you will get it. For me it began to take meaning. For me it was to look good at all times, bought new clothes to go with the weight loss, listen to upbeat music on my way home, got my nice watch out of the drawer and got new batteries for it. Forced myself to be around others (doing better at this).It has now been about 3-4 weeks that I feel ok emotionally. How can you not. People of both genders are always commenting on your appearance and the way you are dressed. After a while you start to feel good about yourself. Even my D said I look thin and likes my new dressing style. If so many are noticing changes so must you WAS, right? How can she not. I am not saying that I don't get depressed but it is now for a brief period and when it comes on I go for a mile walk. I am now sleeping about 6-7 hours. I wake up once at around 1:30 am but fall back asleep.

So if you feel that those horrible feelings will be always be there, they won't if you follow the guidance of those experienced DBers in here. Hang in there