Down Again - Is he done yet?

[ericmsant2]

that I am over-analyzing the situation and making more of it than it is.

Can you see why you are over-analyzing? Do you see where the root of this is coming from. I have an idea but wanted to see where you are at.

Also, what is over-analyzing doing to YOU? Pssst….hint….if you are focused on HIM then you are NOT focused on ?????

I have asked him about her, but I have decided to ot bring her back into the relationship.

Asking him is quite normal and it is a good thing that you have stopped bringing it up.

Question….what does the word “attraction” mean to YOU? What is it? What does it look like? What makes it? Etc.

NO MORE PIT FOR ME!!!!

Saying and DOING are TWO different things. What I have learned in this journey is that the more we focus on them, the M, the problems, the LESS time and ENERGY we spend focusing on ourselves and what makes us HAPPY. We always say who or what makes us happy, yet we but this burden on someone else. We are happy IF they make us feel happy, We are happy IF they do what WE want to do. Think about this DU. What is it that would REALLY make YOU happy? Don’t tell me HUBBY, that isn’t the answer I am looking for but if it is your answer….do you see anything wrong with it?

H came home last night after 10 PM from his night with 2 buddies (or so he says).

“or so he says”….looks like TRUST is an issue and although I understand it (Lord knows I am dealing with it myself)…it is something that YOU must deal with. The more time you spend questioning things from a negative perspective, the more things will look and FEEL suspicious. Once again, if you were really focused on YOU then you may not notice some of these things.

his email to me that he would be home by dinner.

Did you make dinner for him? If so, then you could very well have said to him. Next time I would appreciate it if you called to say you were going to be late. Be YOURSELF DU. Say what you mean and feel. I can already see FEAR in your post. A fear that you could loose him. Stop it.

I will keep stressing how important it is for YOU to live your life. For YOU to take control over your happiness. He should want to follow YOU and be a PART of YOUR happiness – not vice versa. When someone is truly happy, they glow, they radiate, they exude a confidence that cannot be FAKED. Please DU, take some time to find out what will really make you happy and then go do it!

Peace,
Eric