DB is about doing what works and not doing what doesn't. I don't think there's anything in db about perfectly understanding their needs and walking on eggshells. You might need to try something different than what you've been doing. Or you may need to detach more so that you can accept your situation and work within it rather than railing against what it is not.
Am not unsympathetic, but if you define db "working" as db making your wife start working on your relationship, that's not the stated goal of db.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
