They also hang on, as others have noted, in ways that are strange.
A couple of days ago I got a birth notice from xh about my nephew, [his brother's son. I was pointedly NOT invited to their wedding a couple of years back while my sons all were, although they did not attend] Although I know my bil pretty well -who encouraged xh to leave me, I actually do not know this particular nephew as his parents divorced when he was very small and he lived with his mother.
Call me hard hearted, but beyond wishing them well, I do not give a rat's a** about my xh's family. His brothers and sisters cut me out of their lives the moment my xh left [after a 30 year marriage] We have been divorced nearly a year, and I get forwarded a birth announcement. Which bit of 'We are divorced, not amicably, and your family have never contacted me once in 6 years, and you think I am interested that my nephew by marriage whom I hardly know has had a son' does my xh not get?
For reasons I really do not understand they have given their son the same second name as my youngest son's first name - it is a very unusual name, and my youngest likes it. However, given the first name they have chosen for the baby is not one that most people would use, it seems likely to me that this child will be called by his second name.
Clearly my irritation at all of this still indicates a degree of attachment to the whole stupid situation. Anyway I deleted the email, and have had a small rant here. Thanks for being there guys.
