Curve balls? Heck, I don't even play softball!!!

[25yearsmlc]

IS,

first, I'll read the case and see what gives. Have not read it yet and of course states do vary. Plus in case it's not obvious, I can't give "legal" advice here and you'd be a fool to take it. But I will say, see another L b/c you have nothing to lose, obviously and

furthermore, I'm amazed at the brazen malpractice I witnessed in a small town recently. Several of the L's had cut and paste operating agreements that literally had conflicting clauses in them, billed up the wazoo for things they did NOT do (on my birthday, which I clearly recalled, the outside counsel billed my client for hours of work he could not have done b/c he and I were working on another case. He didn't know it was my birthday but thought I was an evil genius for recalling that specific day...what a crook. And charming too...)

Worst of all, there was a lawsuit against the client that was over a year old. I came upon it as the new head counsel and read it carefully. The arguments of the other side MADE SENSE and I zeroed in on their arguments since they made them for us...(the L prior to me, still assisting and billing like crazy, had not either read it at all, or not carefully. It was dry and not interesting. It was also worth millions...)

So I read it line by line with a ruler. I referred to a code and found another mistake in our favor. Poof, "we" won.

The fact that the prior L had this case for 14 months and had not read this document, with which I had no previous experience, shocked and sickened me.

I'll never forget it. I have several Ls in my family and we all were amazed that this is done and L's don't get sued more.

So on behalf of my profession, I apologize.

Also, that 2nd lawyer bugs me b/c Instead of saying you have no case, the 2ndL could have said he lacks sufficient experience or referred you to someone who "might" be able to help you. Even if I truly believed you had no case, I'd send you to someone else with more hope.


Now for your other stuff....

Also, I echo what Val said. You are pursuing AGAIN...so of course there is pull back.

Get a grip. Why "observe" about the "good conversations" or anything? LET HER COME TO YOU and more than once....do NOT point out your changes. As Val says, that reeks of tactical moves on your end and NOT sincere or lasting changes.

Why should she believe in them when you highlight them? OMG stop that. It's like what your S does when he makes a nice card for you and wants attention.

Um, it's cute on a 4 y/o....not so much on a woman.

IS, you have to figure this out asap.

The more you detach, the more you interest her.

It's not easy - but it's NOT complicated either.

okay, enough 2 x 4s b/c I do see some glimmers here.

Plus I think holidays are kid time and OW isn't quite in the picture yet. Too bad so sad for her...


But you have to back off. Let her at least fear losing you, in theory???
Please...

trust ALL the advice you are getting here. BACK OFF and be more mysterious!!

You can do that and still be a good mom.

((( )))