I spent all night with XW..........on the phone

[tested metal]

All I can say that is that nothing ever gets done without the proper motivation. We can all tell you exactly what to do and how to do it but, it is up to you to follow through.

You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.

My point is, what is YOUR motivation Tad?

What do you want to see happen?

You are at the very important cross in the road where a very hard decision has to be made for the sake of yourself. If the R survives, then great. But you have to save yourself first.

It is like helping a drowning victim. You have to learn how to swim first , before you can help them.

Good luck! I am cheering for you!