I just feel like I am at a disadvantage because she doesn't live in our home any longer. Not being able to see her or her being able to see me (and any resulting changes) puts me in a chasing position.
Not so -- you're only in the chasing position if you put yourself there. I'm six months into my sitch, also dealing with an OM. W lives half of the country away from me, and because of her behavior, I've been avoiding her like the plague. Yet she still pursues me and constantly wants to find out what I'm doing.
Let your W go. There may be a long time that goes by where she seems to have forgotten you, but you can almost be assured that once enough time goes by, she will start to inch back. GAL in the meantime.
