All I can say is WOW. I can't see how 2 Ls can have such contrasting opinions. Seems no one cares what's best for children anymore (to include WAS). Keep looking for a L who will fight for you. I would not make any mention of this to your W. Good luck finding the right L!
M 33 W 29 S 4 M 5 T 7 11/7/11 Separation, W moves in with parents 12/1/11 W: "IDLY, I'm not coming back, it's over" 1/7/12 D Bomb Dropped
