Sounds like a normal marriage to me! You know - give and take.
Perhaps I'm missing something here. Aside from financially, what other concessions has she made with her life? Since separating:
- I've work around my wife's medical school/medical interviews/medical internship schedules. - I'm having to live with the fact that she took our son from our house and instated a 70/30 timeshare, despite my efforts and requests to balance that out.
I've said this many times before: if we were childless, I wouldn't care if she moved to the moon. But when she plays around with our son like this, it's obvious that I'd take it a little more seriously.
- She still talks down to me (in front of our son, mind you), despite advising her not to numerous times. - She makes her schedule, and because my job and life doesn't involve a lot of travel or late nights, it always seems as if I'm working with her schedule. - She blatantly ignores boundaries, even simple physical ones. She's been known to waltz into my garage (where she picks our son up) to take boxes and things she "forgot" when she first left the house.
But I digress. The funny thing about the schedule and the itinerary is that these are 180s for me. Yes, you heard right.
My wife was always the planner, the logistics person, the one who preferred structure. I was more a shoot-from-the-hip kind of guy.
Therefore it's baffling to me that my wife calls me controlling for doing these things; I'm trying to be a responsible and consistent adult here. I guess like what MWD indicates in the book, if your 180 obviously doesn't work, try something else.
Maybe I'm forgetting to humble myself. Maybe I'm not forgiving. Maybe not.
Thanks for checking in on me, LITB. Hope you're doing well yourself. Since this whole separation mess, I've never been completely alone during big holidays, much thanks to my church family. So on Christmas day I'm having a lunch party with a dear family and then dinner with another. Tomorrow I'm taking sometime off for a day to have some man time with a close church friend as well; his family just bought some land and property up near Redding and wants me to go out there to survey the place.
