He's right. Divorce is not a death sentence, or at least it doesn't have to be. And if it does happen, the more tension you contribute to the situation now is all the more you may have to try to erase later. My ex and I get along great now, and in many ways have a stronger relationship. I don't think it would be that way though if I had continued making her feel awful and scolding her for months on end.
You can be strong through this. You just don't know you can.
If you could take some time to reflect on yourself, what are you most afraid of with all of this?
In the meantime, with the outbursts, just ask yourself: As hard as it has been for you to detach and take the high road, is not keeping your mouth shut working for you?
I wish you well.
M-34 XW-32 D-7 Found OM's presence 4/09 Separated 12/09 Divorced 8/10 GREAT relationship as coparents since 8/10
