<<why do you say he does not want you to bring another man into your daughter's life?>> Because he has told me many times, in NO uncertain terms. But he knows it isn't reasonable. So, he will tell me he is okay with it, but as soon as I start dating, he gets upset. It is getting easier with each of my "attempts at dating", but it is not his preference. Him letting me get someone else to meet my needs for emotional intimacy and companionship and sex is a more attractive option to him than for him to try to do it. He knows he can't and won't try.
<<are you terrified he's your only chance at not being alone? >> No, I am afraid of making him mad and I have always felt weird about bringing another man into my kids' lives. Until I got pregnant, I hoped to reconcile with my ex-husband.
<<<Besides, I have an older sister who had been married for 22 years with 3 kids, 2 still at home when Her h decided he wanted to be free and he broke her heart and left her/them. The kids rarely saw him by their own choice. He was irritable...along with other things.
She was in her mid forties. She remarried in 3-4 years, and I can honestly say, she is happier now than she EVER was or could have been with her first h.
Her first h was a taker and she's a giver.
Now she's married to another giver and in reality,
when her first h left her we siblings KNEW she'd be better off...eventually...but we felt badly b/c she had a broken heart.>>> Thank you for sharing this!
