What else could I have done?

[25yearsmlc]

After she left, she continued to move on...while i continued to hold on. I held on throughout an 8 month separation, a very nasty 13 month divorce, and then for a year after the divorce.
I now am committed to putting my time and energy into investing in my own personal growth instead of investing in a relationship that has ended.

Antlers, first, (((( )))).

second, when given the choice, (and not all are) - I believe

it is FAR FAR better to have held on, perhaps for too long,

than to have let go, perhaps a bit too early.

If I must regret something (and that is not an eternal condition)

then I prefer regret about trying too hard or for too long,

than regret about quitting too soon or not giving enough of myself.

Make sure Your regrets are about how you were IN the marriage,

not how you tried, once you had seen the light.

Once you obtained the tools for a healthy relationship, you began using them and you still have them for your future and what YOU create for yourself.

Please see this as the blessing it is. And though the efforts have yielded some fruit already - the greatest harvest is yet to come.


There is no return on the investment in the relationship's emotional corpse. In contrast, the greatest possible return comes from investment in me.
And letting go is the key to my growth and development. I want to do this.

Letting go of our painful past and present day grudges, is essential to OUR happiness. (That is why your xw is still not happy...)


You are starting to let go. You will be happy again, and you will love again...it'll be so good.